Orgasms and other illusions

I click thru photo sites, pinterest, tumblr, ... and feel like a dinosaur.

I run across a lot of female faces in orgasmic enchantment. Sometimes quite arousing. Was the photographer really witness, or even part, of a truly exciting moment? I see all these perfect tits, faces without pores, arms without hairs, perfect bums and thighs without the lightest touch of cellulite.

All fake? All fake! Most of it.

Fake? Real? She knows. I know. You'll never know...
"Yana's orgasm" (by Daniel Bauer)

My friend Venus recently published an article in the sex column of a Spanish news paper about the reasons why many women sometimes fake orgasms.

She presumes that most men don't stop fucking until the woman reaches her climax. And if she don't, he keeps going on and on, until she pretends to cum, what finally makes him end bumping into her.

Reading this, I remembered a night with a very intimate friend. We were both very tired.

Laying on her side she snuggled against me. Feeling my dick in the warm valley between her firm little buttocks, she mumbled: "You can fuck me a little bit, if you like".

Her hand gently guided me into her. She didn't move.

I fucked her softly, and fucked her a little bit harder, holding her young ass in my hands, and fucked her a little bit more, flying away in my cloud of absolute emotional well being, feeling the warmth of her body, listening to her moaning and the exciting sound that the fluids cause when penetrating her wet pussy. The odor of her soft skin filled me with that kind of happiness where all the annoyances of the world simply disappear, when I heard her say: "I said, a little bit - I didn't mean for hours...".

So what's the advantage of faking an orgasm instead of just telling what a woman wants, exactly as my lover did it that night? I guess, some do it out of love. They don't want to hurt the self-esteem of their partner and give him the feeling of being a great lover who gives her complete satisfaction.

How nice. And how wrong.

Is she really hot? (by Daniel Bauer)

First of all she looses the chance to have sex the way she really loves.

The inexperienced man will do the same again and again because she makes him believe that this is the way she takes off. A some more experienced man will easily sense a fake orgasm.

Maybe she can control her facial expression, her sounds and the move­ment of her body, but she can not control what happens in her pussy when she's about to cum. Inside her, it's impossible not to feel it.

Her lover feels cheated and irritated (I noticed, b.t.w., that girls who fake orgasms often also are not very honest in other ranges of life...). Finally he'll ignore her simulated gestures and takes her as he'd take any prostitute. The more she fakes, the worse gets her own sex experience.

But what the fuck am I talking about all this?

I believe that fake orgasms are illustrating very clearly the disadvantages of faking anything in life. Fake stuff, no matter what, is never satisfying. It always leaves a bad taste.

Because this is an art nudes photography blog I relate this to images, too, and especially to the "optimized" women one can see in standard nude photography - which makes by far the biggest part of all published nudes. In the end these images leave everybody unsatisfied, even if on the fist sight one might consider such an over-retouched image as beautiful.

There's no photoshop in real life. Yana by Daniel Bauer

Have you ever met such a "perfect" woman in real life? You'll never find that girl with those never ending legs, the perfect tits, the always shiny hair, the spotless shaven pubes, the always erected nipples and the orgasmic face without a wrinkle.

Unfortunately women want to follow these unrealistic ideals, too. Without any success, of course, because there is no photoshop in real life.

The more we admire those "super creatures" the bigger our dis­ap­point­ment. Photo­shop produces fake goals that can never be reached and instead of enchanting us fill us with frustration. We compare reality with industrially produced stereotypes. Bombed with standardized "perfection" we loose the feeling for real, individual, human beauty. Beauty that exists and that we can love.

I'm a dinosaur. I want the real thing, and I'm not talking about the sticky soft drink.
I want real life, real love, real orgasms.

And I want real photographs of real women. Fuck photoshop! It is nothing but the fake orgasm of our times.

(Photos are symbolic illustrations and are not connected to the storyline of this post)

Making love with models

Provocative title, isn't it? And yes, it's true: I do make love with my models! Although I stay dressed, keep physical distance and don't touch.

If this sounds like a contradiction to you, you have simply mistaken love for sex. But today I am not talking about sex, even though I've chosen the title deliberately, of course, to mislead you a little bit and to gain your attention.

handcuffed on the carpet - by Daniel Bauer

My models, clients and colleagues may forgive me for using the example of a cookbook to better explain to what I am referring. As you know for sure, most of the photos in cookbooks do not at all arouse appetite. Others make your mouth waters.

Why? Well, the producer of the former simply took photos of meat, vegetable, fruit, sauces... while the artist of the latter was ravished by his presentation. He virtually ate the menu with his camera. He scented the odor with his flashes, tasted the savor with his lenses. The image that is so appetizing was taken with love. Love for his profession. Love for the object of his work.

studio nude by Daniel Bauer

Translated into nude photography, the former photographs bodies and faces, maybe even very beautiful ones, maybe even with professional lighting, correct angles and in focus, but his images will show nothing but flesh. This is what I call pOrn, regardless of hidden or explicitly shown nipples or pussies.

The latter loves his model with his camera, he caresses her with the light, he kisses her with the angles he chooses and adores her, when he releases the shutter.

As with any artist, my profession is my passion and my images are the the fruit of my love for what I do and what I see.

With my photographic art I want to portray the full joy of female sensuality and sexuality. I use eroticism in its original form, without censorship, open, you may say horny, but I don't encourage women to imitate a state of sexual arousal or to force themselves into excitement without reason. I try to create a relaxed atmosphere where she can simply be herself, feel save and appreciated for what and how she is. I want her to feel beautiful, feminine, tempting and attractive, because she is as she is, and I want her to feel that she is perfect, without any need to follow stereotypical ideals of beauty.

Just like an enamored lover looks at her thru rose-colored glasses, I look at her thru my view-finder and see her personal, own beauty, the special and unique in her. Via my lens I try to get in contact with her, to feel her, and to capture the vibrations and emotions in an image. Every woman who gets naked in front of my camera can be assured that she'll receive my full attention, love and understanding. With every click of my camera I ennoble, glamorize and let her feel touched without bodily contact, experiencing the moment and being part of an act of love.

sensual view, by Daniel Bauer

With my artistic photography I try to transform eroticism and sensuality into something pure and holy, worthy to be appreciated. In the composition of my photos you can see genuine moments, a woman in a state of pleasure without having to pretend or exaggerate anything. Although many of my photos show "everything" I believe that they distinguish expressly from the vulgar and describe a woman as a natural, adorable human being, pure in all her parts, including the origin of the world.

To search the particular in every model, feel and appreciate what we have, is the concept of my artistic nude photography. Because for me there is only one way to do things, you believe it or not, but it's all about showing the truth.
With love.

(This text was strongly inspired by an article my ex-love Yana once wrote about my work but regrettably never published. It was called "El Amante Perfecto" and some of the phrases used here I have impudently stolen from her draft.)

praise of pubic hair

Everybody knows that I love pussies with an abundant bush of pubic hair. It's so cosy!

Nothing more delicious than to lay my head on the pubes of a beautiful hairy girl, feel the caress of the soft fur in my face, scent her unique odor, explore the round curves of her firm lips with my mouth and my fingers...

So, let me talk a little bit about the indubitable advantages of pubic hair and why I really can't stand shaven pussies anymore...

The beautiful, big and hairy pussy of my ex-lover Yana

Before the 1990es a shaven pussy was a distinct identification of being prostitute or working in the p0rn industry. Of course, in private, it could have been one of the sexy games to let him shave her pussy, variety is the spice of life! But it was always an exception, the awkward effects (itching, pimples from ingrown hairs, scratchy stubble after a few days...) were too unpleasant. A shaven woman could not show herself in the sauna or the changing room of the sports club, because she'd send the signal of being a whore.

But suddenly the signification changed from "I am a prostitute, hire me!" to "I am a standard girl who blindly follows what society asks me to. Tell me what I have to do!". And all non-individual women started to shave.

Yeah, I hear your protest! But doing what everybody does has never been an attribute of pronounced individualism and free spirit, don't you agree?

Women even talk about such stupid things like "hygiene". Believe me, this is the moment in which every desire to see her naked dies immediately. Of course she has hygienic problems! She removed the pubic hair that protects her from heat and cold and the permanent friction of the underwear on her most delicate parts. Shaving or (photo-, laser-, chemical...) depilation irritates her sensitive skin. The irritated skin and the products used, in the truest sense of the word open the door for vaginal yeast infection and other undesirable guests...

Some men simply cannot deal with adult women, and so they need to remove her signs of adulthood. I havn't seen a pre-adolescent pussy from close since I'm not a teenager anymore, but I know that what you see in the web and in magazines are retouched versions. A shaven adult pussy doesn't have anything of the delicateness of a young girls genitals and the sad truth looks much more like this:

Unretouched shaven pussies as they really look: pimples, ingrown hairs, scratchy stubble...

So better let's spend our time on the beauty and the merits of pubic hair...

touch it, feel it, love it!

When you caress the pubes of a woman with your hand and softly (or sometimes less softly...) tickle her pubic hair, the feelings transmit via the roots of the hairs much deeper, giving her a lot more pleasure.

Doing cunnilingus for a hairy woman is pure delight!

You feel her hairs caressing your face and mouth, it's soft and smooth, you can play with it with your lips, your teeth, your hands. It is fantastic to play with the whole haired region, and when her lips open you can slide in to where there is no hair, even on the hairiest girl...

Don't tell me, you don't want hair in your mouth! Or do you never kiss her in her neck, her ears, above her forehead, where there is usually much more hair than between the legs?

Did you ever hear about pheromones?

Those are those chemical substances every animal produces to attract corresponding sexual partners. It is a very personal and individual odor and the greatest advantage is, that it only attracts potential partners that match the natural chemistry between the two. Pubic hair holds this odor for you, and if you're the right one for her and she's the right one for you, it could happen that you just never again want to turn away from her incredibly delightful bush!

Shaven girls loose a lot of their potential attractiveness. On the naked skin those substances cannot last and are often predominated by fragrances that ruin the unconscious magnet for her right guy with whom she wants to live her true animal instincts!

Pubic hair is natural, it's beautiful and it's a sign of being adult. It is something that you can be proud of. It makes your legs optically longer (because your upper part of the body visually ends where the pubic hair begins, though appears shorter compared to the legs...). It hides your most intimate parts from being exposed to everybody's views on first sight and adds some secrecy, thus making it even more interesting for brave discoverers.

As a woman, with refusing the intimate depilation you not only do a lot to better your sexual life but also show that you are an individual, self-thinking woman who does what she likes, and not what the society tries to oblige her.

You will definitively attract more interesting and better matching men. And if a guy tells you, that he can't stand pubic hair, think a moment: do you really want a man that cannot accept you as you are? Who asks you to change something very intimate of you, just to suit his taste? A man who cannot make love with a truly adult woman? Why don't you ask him to change his dick for a more beautiful one? Let him go! There are millions of shaven standard girls for him. You deserve better!